I started working out about six months ago. It’s something I’ve always wanted to do but never got started with it. This time I was serious, so I downloaded a home workout app and was ready to go.

I was already excited when I began, but what got me even more excited was the picture I saw on the ad. You mean, in just thirty days I will have abs like that? Why of course, sign me up😂.

It didn’t happen like that though. I worked out every day for three months, taking breaks only when I had to, and nothing changed. In fact, there were days I looked in the mirror and my belly looked two sizes bigger😩. I was very disappointed; I can’t tell you how much. I thought the ad said thirty days😩. I’m in my third month man😑, this thing is not working, this app is useless😤.

At least that was what I thought then. That was as far as I could see beyond my frustration😕. I didn’t notice how energetic I had become over the past three months, neither did I see the faint outlines that had begun forming on my belly. I was so distracted by that picture of perfection that I could not see the good things the process was producing in me. 

But my expectations were not without cause. I craved those results because I wanted proof that I was not wasting my time😕. I was scared. I didn't want to expend so much energy and get nothing in return. That was why I tracked my progress daily, like I was tracking a disease.

I took no time to appreciate myself, I didn't think I deserved it. 

It was later I found out that I had no control over the outcome of things, and worrying was not going to change anything. I needed to stop talking about how slow everything was and stop visiting the mirror for approvals. 

It was time to focus my attention elsewhere and allow myself to see the good in the little things that I did. It shouldn't just be about the end, I had to learn to appreciate the process too. So, this became my new journey and I learnt a lot from the things I experienced.

Things I never thought were within me began to emerge; I soon found out that I was insecure about my body😔. So all that haste for results, was really just a projection of what I wanted gone.

I wasn’t as strong as I thought I was, but I wasn’t as weak either. There were still things I had to work on🛠️, it was my responsibility to do so.

But nothing I did would have made any difference if I continued to see things in a negative way. The changes in my attitude, in my expectations, it only began when I started to see beyond the setbacks and failures. 

Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see a shadow - Helen Keller
In order to carry a positive action, we must develop here a positive vision - Dalai Lama
I always like to look on the optimistic side of life, but I am realistic enough to know that life is a complex matter - Walt Disney
For us to truly progress, we need to refocus our attention on what is possible, meaningful and good. It doesn't matter how low we have fallen or what mistakes we've made, if we decide to see the greatness we can achieve instead of the mess that lays before us, we can accomplish anything. 


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      September 27, 2020 at 07:54 AM

      How do I get rid of the insecurity I feel towards my body?

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      September 29, 2020 at 03:01 AM

      Begin with your mind girl. Work to change the way you perceive yourself. Listen to people who were once insecure about their bodies and learn from how they overcame that thought. Who you are is enough, don't be afraid to accept that. I hope this helps.

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